Baby, It’s Cold Outside

It seems we went from hot to chilly in a blink. The brisk, dark days make staying in bed so much more inviting, but it’s lonely in bed by yourself. “Baby, It’s Cold Outside” written by Frank Loesser in 1944 is a classic example of how tempting intimacy and companionship can be in the winter. Icy days and warm beds are for snuggling. But if tinder doesn’t light your fire, what do you do? Maybe you want something more, something deeper. Your heart aches to be known by someone, somebody to talk to. Somebody to wrap you up in his or her arms in a way that makes the rest of the world disappear. Possibly you crave sexual gratification that is somewhere between dark, molten chocolate and the intoxicating warmth and complexity of calvados. Perhaps you just want some hot steamy sex while it’s cold outside. Winter is so much easier to tolerate with some company.

Staying cozy takes a bit of ingenuity. We can wrap ourselves in cashmere and fur, make a fire, and roast some chestnuts. Try adding a shot of Iceberg Crème Brûlée IceFusion Vodka to your piping hot coffee. Make some soup. Get naked under the covers to share the warmth with someone who knows how to snuggle (some people just don’t have that talent). You can jet off to somewhere so hot that clothes are only marginally necessary. Feel the sun on your skin, and the ocean breeze in your face. Possibly even a ‘holi-date’. But if you can’t get away from the cold, consider a ‘stay-cation.’ Invite some friends over for cocktails, do a jigsaw puzzle, shamelessly stay in bed and catch up on movies and reading. Swap out the bikini for staying in your underwear and shut off you phone. Go “off the grid”! Preferably with a companion. Make your home feel wonderful, warm, clean, bright and cheerful because this is where you spend more of our free time when it’s icy out there. Light candles and open a bottle of something. Give your bedroom a “Pimp My Ride” style makeover. Cook something delicious. Wear a scent that mixes well with your body chemistry and makes you feel fetching. Allow your “Let’s get it on” playlist to fill the air. Be with people you love, especially if you live alone. How about being with family, friends, friends with benefits, a lover, a pet, (yours or a friend’s). Be with beings that make you feel good.

Whether you meet online, randomly in the produce section of Whole Foods, or the old fashioned way, through formal introduction, being honest with yourself and others is a great path to more satisfying relationships and hopefully leads you to finding a partner that satisfies you intimately, shares your enthusiasm for ice skating at Rockefeller Center, whose values you can identify with. I wish for all of us, partners with whom we can share a heart, mind and body connection. Getting all three in one person is the hardest and rarest thing to find, that most elusive true love. The world would be such a happier place and certainly warmer in bed on a cold night.

Wishing you warmth and passion through the dark cold of winter